Spiritual bypassing refers to using spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with uncomfortable feelings. This could also include avoiding unresolved wounds and fundamental emotional and psychological needs.
By hiding behind metaphysical beliefs and practices, spiritual bypassing can lead us to withdraw from ourselves and others. It keeps us from addressing our pain and difficult personal issues. It also separates us also from our authentic spirituality.
Spirituality, as a set of ideas and practices, could be self–sabotaging at times.
One of my biggest financial regrets was spending over $30,000 to a psychic to help me “remove a curse”. In a nutshell, I was young, desperate, hated my job, hated my life, and going through a breakup.
With the psychic, there was always more “spiritual work” that needed to be done. Eventually, $3,000 here and $5000 there added up to over $30,000 over three years.
The thing that got me was she was spot on with some of her readings. So I was hooked. I believed everything she said that was going to happen or not happen to me.
Spiritual bypass is a defense mechanism.
Instead of dealing with my pain, I was using metaphysical beliefs and practices in hopes that my circumstances would resolve itself.
I was spiritually distracting myself from our feelings, thinking that I was walking a healthy spiritual path. In some ways, I was “throwing money” at my problems too.
Spiritual bypassing shields us from the truth. It disconnects us from our feelings and can be so subtle that we usually don't even know we are doing it.
Are you spiritually bypassing?
If you are avoiding the pain, then it’s time to nip it in the bud. It’s time to feel it in order to heal it.
Going through a dark night of the soul feels downright awful. In fact, it’s not easy to see any silver linings in the midst of all the chaos.
So there’s not need to force it. Stop the analyzing. After some time passes, you may see why things panned out the way they did.
Turn negative vibes into positive fuel.
When you focus on when and how the chaos is going to end, your feelings resonate energetic vibrations of anger, resentment and anxiety.
Manifesting a breakthrough can slow down because your energy starts to operate in a lower vibrational frequency.
For now, there’s no need to push yourself while in the midst of a dark night of the soul. In fact, you can turn negative vibes into positive fuel at any time.
Small but consistent steps.
After much introspection, I recognized that my happiness, my sanity and just having that sense of peace and balance, was priceless. Slowly but surely, I got clear on what I wanted to change in my work and life.
Within months, I moved to a new city. I even bought a condo and car within 24-hours of landing. When in alignment, things fall into place quite quickly.
The key is to feel it in order to heal it! As you release your negative emotions, begin to shift your energy.
When you shift your focus, you shift your energy.
And where our focus goes, energy flows.Shifting your focus requires managing thought patterns.
Our brain is wired to help us survive in this world. The brain tends to look for what’s wrong, for whatever can hurt us.
As a result, an unfocused mind operates naturally in survival mode by searching for threats. I don’t know about you but that usually is in the form of unnecessary stress and anxiety for me!
In fact, operating on survival mentality nonstop can lead to strained relationships and health issues too.
R.A.I.N. on negative thoughts.
The important thing is to take baby steps to ease out of the negative thought patterns. Remember the acronym R.A.I.N. Recognize, accept, intention, and neutralize those thoughts.
Recognize that the sympathetic nervous system is activated which is often referred to as the fight or flight response. Accept the thought by letting go of any self-judgement.
Take three slow breaths to ease your way out of the fight or flight mode. Next, set the intention. For instance, you may want to write or say out loud that forgive yourself for your past financial mistakes.
Then write or say that you intend to take small but consistent steps each day to achieve financial freedom.
Ready to do something for yourself? Self-care is the way to healing!