You got a great personality and looks to match. But your soul mate seems nowhere in sight! Where the heck is Mr. or Ms. Right?
So you’ve tried everything to meet that soul mate for life. Online dating, going to parties you don’t even want to go to, speed dating, the list goes on.
You aren’t even picky when it comes to guys. No specific requirements for height, hair color, or fashion sense.
I get it. Because I’ve been there.
I’ve always been the single gal in my group of friends in junior high and high school. In fact, I didn’t have a boyfriend until my late 20’s.
When that relationship ended, I dated here and there and had one long term relationship in my 30’s. By the time that relationship ended, I was in my mid-30's.
Prior to meeting my Mr. Right, I was just as frustrated and impatient. I was loving the single and fab lifestyle but at times, it got lonely.
And you know what? Looking back, Mr. Right came along when I wasn’t looking. The same goes for the previous guys that I dated too! Each time, I was merely doing my own thang. I was doing what brought me joy, be it traveling or yoga...with my girlfriends.
When Mr. Right came along, I was in the midst of a mini Eat, Pray, Love journey. I had just taken multiple leaps of faith. This included resigning from a 9-5 after eight years with the company. I had no other job lined up. I just wanted to focus on doing some much needed soul searching.
So how did we meet if all I was doing was focusing on me?
I was not proactive. Just doing activities that brought me joy. Let me explain further…
When we do what brings us joy, such as a hobby, we are raising our vibrations. When we raise our vibes, we are better able to attract who and what we want into our lives. We are raising our frequency to vibrate at the frequency of where we want to go in life.
That’s the thing about energy work. Energy flows through all life categories: relationships, health, finances, etc. Energy is not limited by time, distance or space. When we are doing what brings us joy in one life category, the positive energy flows into our other life categories.
Similar to baking cookies.
If you are baking cookies in the kitchen, the smell of the cookies permeate to the bedroom, living room, and even outside the house. The smell is not just stagnate in the kitchen.
Energy flows the same way. If there are blocks in your relationship category, allow the energy to flow by doing what brings you joy in a different life category. Doing so will raise your vibrational frequency in all life categories. This in turn enhances your aura, the energetic vibrations you give off.
And that is when Mr. Right usually comes along. When you are at your best, many times not even looking for him or her.
When I focused on getting my finances squared away, eating healthier, redecorating my condo, and taking care of myself, I was “filling up my cup”. In turn, I was a lot happier to be around with a “filled cup”.
My work quality reflected my happiness and my friends and new colleagues took notice. As I filled up my cup, I was better able to attract other high-vibin’ peeps into my personal and professional circle. As my network grew, so did the opportunities that came along to meet Mr. Right.
It just goes to show that when you raise your vibes, the positive energy flows into other life categories instantly. Opportunities to cross paths with Mr. Right will come along much more naturally.
So have you been trying too hard to meet your soul mate? Keep it simple and start with focusing on you. Take a step back and evaluate what brings you joy. Pursue it and watch the energy flow into your other love life and other life categories.
Nothing is wrong with you just because you are single.
Being single can be fabo but sometimes it get tiring to hear the same questions: “How come you’re still single?” or “What’s wrong with you?” I may not know you but I can assure you that nothing is wrong with you just because you’re single.
Maybe your family and friends keep telling you, “Stop being so picky!” or “No worries, the right guy will come along.” Well, it’s time for them to realize the following three reasons why nothing is wrong with you just because you are single.
Nothing is wrong with you because you don’t need a boo to feel fulfilled. Being single allows you to get to know yourself better allowing you to better understand your strengths and weaknesses.
As a result, you are more equipped to stand your own ground because you rely on your own abilities.
Throughout my 20’s and 30’s, during the times that I was single, I felt a lot of pity from my married friends. I was constantly asked if I was dating anyone as if that was the only thing that was interesting to talk about with me.
I had a solid career making six-figures. I’m not bad looking and in shape from teaching yoga. So what was going on? It shouldn’t be THAT hard to find a guy?
Although I really wanted to be married before 30, it just didn’t pan out that way. In fact, I didn’t meet The One until I was 35. Ironically, it wasn’t until I realized that nothing was wrong with me when Mr. Right came along.
Being single also allows you the time and energy to focus on personal development. Specially, when you invest in your spiritual growth, you increase your human capital or wealthness (wealth + wellness).
By incorporating more energy work into your personal development, you’ll have a more solid foundation for a healthy relationship!