A few days ago, I was feeling down. I had no plans for the weekend and all my friends were busy. It felt really lonely being single. But I put one foot in front of the other. I allowed myself to sulk a bit. I slept in and finally got out of bed to eat.
I just kept focusing on being in the moment. Once the low mood lifted a little, I pushed myself to go on a date with myself.
I got dressed for my date (bright yoga clothes) and drove to the city. My initial intention was to just check the box.
Drive into the city and drive back. I set the bar low. I didn't have to get out of the car if I didn't want to.
But one thing led to the other.
I found a great parking spot, then walked a block which led to a beautiful beach view which led me to walk into a Black Lives Matter protest rally.
It was the best date ever.
Once I joined the rally, the loneliness lifted instantly. It was like a complete 180 degree shift from earlier that morning.
I felt the most connected I've ever been to the community and to myself, especially my values.
Whether it's dating at work or online dating, it's been quite the challenge for a single woman in her mid-30's.
At times, the dating jungle can be fun. Other times, the only thing fun is laughing about these dating woes with my friends.
Channeling my inner Oprah
When I feel like I've hit a wall, I just think of Oprah, Amal Clooney, Marie Forleo and Sara Blakely. All women I admire. All beautiful women. And all are single or were married in their mid to late-30s. Related Content: Covid Dating Chronicles (CDC): Ghosted By a BF of 3 Years, Here's How I Healed Covid Dating Chronicles (CDC): The Odds are Good but the Goods are Odd Covid Dating Chronicles (CDC): Suddenly Single
Let's backup a bit...
I've never been married. My longest relationship was 3 years. That was also my last relationship.
As an only child, I've always been independent. But I would still like to be in a healthy loving long term relationship one day.
Here's the thing. I can be picky when it comes to men. I'll admit that. And here in San Diego, California: The odds are good, but the goods are odd. But I've heard my friends in other cities say the same thing about New York, Washington DC, Los Angeles and Boston. Here's what I've concluded... Why settle for less? My single gal friends and I know what we want. More importantly, we know we are better off single than sorry. Sure, it can feel awkward being a third wheel during social gatherings. It can also feel especially lonely during holidays. The thing is, the grass always seems greener on the other side. It can feel just as lonely being in a relationship too. No one has it better off. It's just up to each person to decide that for herself.